The Irate Agenda
Recently someone said I had an agenda. This surprised me, but then I thought about it and yeah, maybe I do have an agenda after all! All people have one of some kind, and I have decided I will share mine with you, 100% bare and candid.
First on the agenda is the promotion of the celebration of successes. Sure, you sound like an asshole if you go on too much about how well you did at something, but it is good to know and celebrate that you did something well! Others will celebrate with you and those who do not celebrate may try to cut you down. They are just being douche bags (they may have something that makes them pang with a bit of jealousy about your success).
A big part of the Irate Agenda is to be true to yourself and your emotions. This is something that is huge to me. Whether I am playing my LARP or skating or just existing, I try to be just me and not necessarily fit the mold others may want to force me in to. I don't fit really anywhere, but then again, I fit everywhere! I believe that with self actualization and the realization of how awesome someone is by them self is a true key to being happy. If someone can look in the mirror and say "I know who I am, I know what I am, I am okay with me" then they are on the right road. Also, if someone says "I know who I am, I know how I want to improve" they are also on the right path... FOR THEMSELVES! That's amazing and important to self growth.
Another agenda item, pump yourself up instead of cutting yourself down. In athletics, as with most other parts of life, the idea of positive self talk rings true. If you tell yourself every day "I cannot do this" then you never will. If you change how you talk to yourself, "I will get better at this" you can (and will) improve! This will loop back to celebration of successes. Bonnie D Stroir once posted in an audio blog that success is progress. And she is damn right! So, build yourself up and tell yourself you can do it, even if that can is eventually and not right away!
The Irate Agenda expands into some deep emotions at times. Don't take someone's baggage as your own. This is a hard thing for me. I am, by nature, am empathetic person. I feel as others feel. When I listen I listen because I want to and because I care, genuinely, about the feelings being conveyed. Sometimes I wind up owning emotions that are not my own and I take on baggage that I should not. I am working hard to only carry my own baggage and to let others carry theirs. Will I walk with them? Sure. But I am not going to carry your shit around with me, it is not mine and I cannot do anything with it.
One of the final pieces of the Irate Agenda (though more parts will be added as I grow as a person): let it roll off. All the negative talk that happens, especially among athletes and even more so just among women, needs to just fucking stop. I am personally tired of people and their dramatic bull shit and their cutting and bruising and hurting of others. The next time someone looks at you and sets out to insult you, hurt you, or cut you down... smile. Smile and turn it around into something you WANT to own and can become more empowered by. Like this! I was inform3ed, in what I perceived to be an attack, that I had an agenda to promote. I will own that. I am promoting positive things and I will own the shit that rolls with it. I will also let it the fuck go because it doesn't matter as much in the long run of my life. I do not need to hang on to negativity and neither does anyone else. Am I still angry about certain things in the past? Maybe a little. But, most of the things that anger me have A: nothing to do with Roller Derby and B: only matter to me!
First on the agenda is the promotion of the celebration of successes. Sure, you sound like an asshole if you go on too much about how well you did at something, but it is good to know and celebrate that you did something well! Others will celebrate with you and those who do not celebrate may try to cut you down. They are just being douche bags (they may have something that makes them pang with a bit of jealousy about your success).
A big part of the Irate Agenda is to be true to yourself and your emotions. This is something that is huge to me. Whether I am playing my LARP or skating or just existing, I try to be just me and not necessarily fit the mold others may want to force me in to. I don't fit really anywhere, but then again, I fit everywhere! I believe that with self actualization and the realization of how awesome someone is by them self is a true key to being happy. If someone can look in the mirror and say "I know who I am, I know what I am, I am okay with me" then they are on the right road. Also, if someone says "I know who I am, I know how I want to improve" they are also on the right path... FOR THEMSELVES! That's amazing and important to self growth.
Another agenda item, pump yourself up instead of cutting yourself down. In athletics, as with most other parts of life, the idea of positive self talk rings true. If you tell yourself every day "I cannot do this" then you never will. If you change how you talk to yourself, "I will get better at this" you can (and will) improve! This will loop back to celebration of successes. Bonnie D Stroir once posted in an audio blog that success is progress. And she is damn right! So, build yourself up and tell yourself you can do it, even if that can is eventually and not right away!
The Irate Agenda expands into some deep emotions at times. Don't take someone's baggage as your own. This is a hard thing for me. I am, by nature, am empathetic person. I feel as others feel. When I listen I listen because I want to and because I care, genuinely, about the feelings being conveyed. Sometimes I wind up owning emotions that are not my own and I take on baggage that I should not. I am working hard to only carry my own baggage and to let others carry theirs. Will I walk with them? Sure. But I am not going to carry your shit around with me, it is not mine and I cannot do anything with it.
One of the final pieces of the Irate Agenda (though more parts will be added as I grow as a person): let it roll off. All the negative talk that happens, especially among athletes and even more so just among women, needs to just fucking stop. I am personally tired of people and their dramatic bull shit and their cutting and bruising and hurting of others. The next time someone looks at you and sets out to insult you, hurt you, or cut you down... smile. Smile and turn it around into something you WANT to own and can become more empowered by. Like this! I was inform3ed, in what I perceived to be an attack, that I had an agenda to promote. I will own that. I am promoting positive things and I will own the shit that rolls with it. I will also let it the fuck go because it doesn't matter as much in the long run of my life. I do not need to hang on to negativity and neither does anyone else. Am I still angry about certain things in the past? Maybe a little. But, most of the things that anger me have A: nothing to do with Roller Derby and B: only matter to me!
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